Rev. Aimee Moiso

Rev. Aimee Moiso is a Presbyterian minister currently working as a university chaplain at Santa Clara University. A graduate of Whitworth University, she received her M.Div. from San Francisco Theological Seminary and a master in ecumenical studies from the the Bossey Ecumenical Institute and the University of Geneva, Switzerland.

Airport philosophy

Airline travel makes me philosophical. While waiting for a recent flight, I found myself analyzing the shoes people choose to wear on planes. Business travelers often sport shiny oxfords. Practical travelers might wear tennis shoes for comfort, or whatever their largest shoe happens to be – boots, for example – to save room in their suitcase. On the other hand, some practical travelers choose simple shoes that are easy to slip on and off in the security line. Others wear flat flip flops (going to Hawaii or some other warm clime, I imagine), or tottery high heels that click away ahead of their rollie bags.

Just looking at people’s shoes gets me thinking: what happened in that woman’s day that made her choose to wear that particular pair? What was he thinking about as he tied those laces? What does footwear say about personality, values, hopes and dreams, the way people picture themselves?

This is how I get when I fly on planes: philosophical.

Yesterday I flew from Louisville to Atlanta to catch a flight back to San Jose. I had a close connection in Atlanta, but not an impossible one. So when I arrived in the A concourse, I looked at the monitors. My San Jose flight was departing from E9. Arg, that meant a train trip to the other end of the airport, four concourses away. I hurried to the train and hopped on, checking those monitors again to make sure I had the gate right. Yup, E9. Boarding.

By the time the train arrived at the E concourse, I was feeling slightly anxious. I had hoped to have a moment to visit the restroom and maybe buy a sandwich. So I bypassed the moving escalator (which was packed with people) and quickly walked up a stopped one – 60 stairs – carrying my little rolling bag. I was out of breath at the top but hurried on, checking the monitors one more time as I rushed by. E9. Boarding.

To my surprise and mild panic, when I got to E9 the monitor at the gate said not San Jose but Santiago. Santiago? And people were deplaning, not boarding. Ack! A rush back to the flight monitors. San Jose. Boarding. B29. B29? How had I made that mistake? I had checked three different monitors! No time for speculation: time to run! Back down the 60-step escalator to the train, and back through all the concourses to B. Then running up the 60-step escalator in the B-concourse (carrying the same rolling bag) and sprinting down the hallway to B29.

The gate was empty. The door was closed. Oh, no. I’ve missed it. I rushed up to the desk, gasping for breath, sweating profusely and holding a stitch in my side.

But I hadn’t missed it. They hadn’t boarded the plane yet – because of the gate change from E9. They were still waiting for the people to arrive from E9, and I was now the first one there. I hadn't misread the monitor. The gate had changed just as I arrived. Whew.

That should have been the end of the story, but it wasn’t.

After the passengers arrived from E9 and we had boarded the plane, we heard an announcement from the cockpit: we were going to have to change planes because there was a mechanical difficulty with the one we had boarded. I then discovered that for all the passengers except me, this was to be the second plane change. The people I’d seen coming off the plane at E9 were these same passengers. Unbelievably, that plane, too, had had mechanical problems that - after everyone had boarded - were not able to be resolved.

The pilot sounded pretty embarrassed.

So we deplaned, most for the second time, and were told we would depart from the gate next door: B27. We planted ourselves there and made ready for the plane we were assured was on its way from the maintenance garage.

A plane may have been on the way from the garage, but it didn’t go to B29. It went to C30. And after some delay, that’s where we were instructed to go. Back down to the train and up again in the C concourse.

By this point, the San Jose passengers were becoming pretty friendly with each other. Our common plight had led to all kinds of casual conversation among us: jokes about airlines and planes, storytelling about other travel snafus, and raised eyebrows, rolled eyes and knowing looks as each new announcement came. Anger and frustration had, for the most part, given way to laughter at the absurdity of the situation. At one point, the monitors actually said our plane had departed. Even the pilots and flight crew joined us in our predicament – chatting with us as we waited, carting their own luggage up and down escalators with us, and shaking their heads in disbelief.

As we loaded what would be our last plane, the mood was positively cordial. Everyone was chatting as if they were old friends. They helped each other load luggage and get settled. All the normal boundaries between strangers, and the distinctions between staff and passengers, seemed to have been dissolved by our camaraderie born of a communal experience.

That’s when my philosophical side really kicked in.

If a twice-delayed flight can do that for a group of strangers, I wondered, why is the fact that we’re all on this spinning ball of rock in the middle of a vast universe in which we are alone and vulnerable and at risk of poisoning our home to the point of destroying ourselves – why isn't that enough to build camaraderie born of communal experience, at least camaraderie enough to keep us from killing each other? 

Passwords

For ease in shopping, nothing beats the internet. In recent months, shopping online saved me what would have been hours of zipping around to different stores to find random items I wanted or needed, including: a particular brand of non-toxic sunscreen, a specific-sized watch battery, an out-of-print book on apparel design, and some hard-to-find sewing notions. Plus, I like to buy used items when I can, and there are more and more places to online these days to connect with that special someone somewhere in the country who wants to get rid of exactly the thing I want to own.

Of course, for every website I use for shopping, banking, paying bills, reserving library books, checking email and sometimes just accessing information, I have to create an account with a username and password.

This makes me crazy.

It makes me crazy in part because creating an account usually means I’m about to get placed on a mailing list (though I’ve become an expert at unchecking the little “receive periodic specials / announcements / newsletters / trumpet fanfares / spam from us” boxes). But mostly it makes me crazy because I’m faced with this dilemma: do I re-use the username and password I most commonly use because it’s the one I’m most likely to remember, or do I make up a new one in order to fool any would-be thieves who try to break into my accounts?

The prospect of this dilemma is enough to cause me, more frequently than I’d like to admit, to abandon whatever enterprise I was undertaking. I just can’t be bothered to choose new passwords for everything I do online.

Recently I was logging into some account or other – perhaps online, or maybe banking by phone – and, for extra security, I was asked to enter the last four digits of my social security number. That day, this extra request caused in me the same feeling I get when prompted to create a new account to complete a mundane transaction – like it was this huge hassle, such an imposition on my time. (My life is so hard.)

Of course, other than moments like that one I don’t think much about my SSN (or other passwords, for that matter).  They’re just keys to open doors or hoops to jump through to get what I need. Minor irritations in my otherwise pretty charmed life.

Not long ago, I was at a seminar on the challenges faced by undocumented immigrants in the United States. A person who spoke at the event talked about the overwhelming stress and anxiety experienced by people living in this country who don’t have an SSN. For so many, especially those who were raised in the United States and who know no other life than this one and are looking for employment or hoping to go to college, the SSN is a password to everything. 

I got that password for one reason only: accident of birth. I was born here, and not somewhere else.

I still think the proliferation of accounts and usernames and passwords is irritating, and they continue to be a source of frustration for me.

But these days I’m trying – without being burdened by guilt and apart from what I believe about the critical need for real immigration reform – to absorb and contemplate the reality of the unfairness of a world that (through no merit of my own) granted me a password to my life. 

Prepare Ye

So this isn't exactly a blog post, but since I've been remiss in doing much blogging recently I thought I'd put up my sermon from yesterday. To get in the right frame of mind, you might go to your CD player or iPod and put on the music from Godspell or Handel's Messiah. Got it playing? Good. If you don't have a Bible handy, here are the texts from Mark 1:1-8 and Isaiah 40: 1-11. If you'd rather listen than read, it will be available on the Stone Church website.

"Prepare Ye" - December 4, 2011, Stone Church of Willow Glen

From the moment I first reviewed the Scripture texts to prepare for this sermon, I had Handel’s Messiah playing in my head. Every va-hal-ley shall be exha-halted. Eventually, I just broke down and popped the CD in the player.

If your memory goes back to the 1970s, perhaps these texts remind you of Godspell and “Pre-ee-pare ye the way of the Lord.” I had that in my head for a while, but all I could remember was “Pre-ee-pare ye the way of the Lord” over and over. So I looked up the lyrics. It turns out that is all there is to that song, except for a couple of places where “Everybody now!” is thrown in for emphasis.

This is the second Sunday of Advent, and we’re smack-dab in the middle of the season of preparing for the arrival of Jesus. Today we lit a candle of preparation, we asked God to prepare our hearts to welcome a Savior into our lives, and we heard from Scripture a call to prepare. 

In December it is hard to forget that Christmas preparation is on the agenda; every television ad and store window screams that time’s awasting and we’ve got to get ready.

In response, all over the country today pastors are saying pithy things to their congregations like, “As you prepare for Christmas, don’t forget to prepare for Christ.”

Actually, some churches don’t do much for Advent. One of my students had never heard of it. She grew up in a church that she described as “On Christmas Eve, Jesus is born, BAM, and that’s it.”

Other Christians spend a lot of time all year long thinking about what it means to prepare for Jesus. I found a song this week called, “What would you do if Jesus came to your house?” Part of it goes,

When you saw him comin’ would you meet him at the door, with arms outstretched in welcome to your heavenly visitor? Or would you need to change some things before you let him in, like burn some magazines and put the Bible where they'd been?”

There’s another verse that talks about serving your best food and what you’d talk about over dinner. It’s kind of a Jesus-as-Santa motif, where preparing for Jesus means cleaning up dust bunnies and being on your best behavior to get on Jesus’ “good” list.

This isn’t exactly a wrong idea; in Mark, John the Baptist does call people to repentance, turning around from old ways of being and embracing new life.

But the coming of God begin with good news, not a test. There is nothing to pay and nothing to fear.

Isaiah’s words come to an Israel in exile, wondering if the wilderness will ever lead them home again. To these exiles, Isaiah cries, “Ollie Ollie Oxen Free.” The glory of the Lord will be revealed, and all are free. All are free.

The glory of the Lord is perhaps an abstraction for us, but for Israel this would have been a known entity: throughout the Hebrew Scriptures, God’s glory is understood as the manifestation of God’s presence, God actually being there with them. It’s harder to see God’s presence when you’re in exile; it’s harder to believe God is present when you’ve been ousted from your home into a strange and foreign wilderness. But it is into the wilderness that the good news comes: the glory of the Lord will be revealed. They will see and know God’s presence again.

And that, essentially, is Isaiah’s message to us, too. It is what we are preparing for in Advent: to see the presence of God through the person of Jesus Christ.

* * *

For me, however, this is where all those cute Christian formulas, like “While you’re preparing for Christmas, don’t forget to prepare for Christ” start to break down a little. How do you prepare for the presence of God? Is it like having your house cleaned and inspected? Is it like getting out the best china and fixing a great meal and putting presents under a tree?

Or is it more like having your world turned upside down? Like feeling every overwhelming joy and fear you’ve ever felt all at once? Like being simultaneously embraced and blinded by fantastically bright light? Like standing on a mountain that suddenly drops into a valley, or in a valley that shoots up into the sky without warning?

Preparing for the presence of God should be exhilarating and terrifying, because it means coming to terms with all we are, and were, and could be, and were meant to be, face to face with the One who designed us. Most of us have a hard enough time getting our Christmas cards out before Epiphany, let alone preparing to receive a presence that might topple Mount Diablo and us with it. It’s a lot to take in, a lot to anticipate, a lot to prepare for, a lot to believe.

But says, Isaiah, it’s a promise: the glory of the Lord shall be revealed.

So there you go. Prepare ye the way of the Lord. Everybody now.

* * *

That reminds me. There’s a second half to that promise. The glory of the Lord will be revealed, and all people shall see it together. The arrival of the presence of God is something that comes to us together, that brings us together. Not some of us. All people shall see it together.

You know what else? Preparing the way of the Lord is also something we do together.

The first words we hear from Isaiah are, “Comfort, O comfort my people. Speak tenderly to Jerusalem.” Those verbs – comfort, speak – are plural. The command is corporate: you all comfort.

Some scholars say that decree is to the heavenly host – that God is calling on all the angels of heaven to spread words of comfort. Perhaps once an angel whispered that into your ear: take comfort, you are free. And if you heard that voice in your ear, maybe it’s your turn now to whisper it to someone else: you are free, come on home. Comfort my people, says God. Speak tenderly to the heart, to prepare the way of the Lord, that all people will see it together.

On Friday, I met a man whose son has a degenerative disease. Our conversation began with some simple questions about Campus Ministry, but I quickly realized the man was asking something else. What he really wanted to know was how to help his son prepare for his early death, which the family knows will come but can’t yet say aloud to each other. And the man wanted to know how he and his wife could possibly prepare themselves to lose a child. He wants to be strong for her. He believes she’s being strong for him. They’re both being strong for their son. And the son is being strong for them. And they are all preparing separately.

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Advent is a set-aside time in which we take special account of how to prepare for God’s way. But we are all preparing all the time: to love, to change, to fail, to grow, to escape, to create, to believe, to die. And we are all preparing in our own ways to see God’s presence revealed. That promise of God’s presence is for all of us, and we need each other to help us prepare to receive it.

When some of don’t feel like the words of comfort are for us, when our hearts are so full of ache that we can’t prepare for anything else, we prepare together by repeating to each other words of comfort: your sin is forgiven, your term is complete. When some of us can’t hear or see the presence of God, when we can’t remember why preparing is worth anything, we remind one another: the grass withers and the flower fades, but word of our God stands forever. When some of us are too afraid to prepare, when preparation makes us too vulnerable, we prepare together saying: do not fear, God will gather the lambs, God will hold the sheep close, God will make a way in the wilderness. When some of us have seen the glory of God, have beheld God’s presence, we prepare together through the strong voices of those who can call from the mountain, “God is here. Make a path in the wilderness, and bring the people home.”

Isaiah’s word to us is a promise: The glory of the Lord will be revealed, and all people shall see it together.

So go. Prepare ye the way of the Lord. Everybody now.

 

Ultimate frisbee with Jesus

Just about the only sport I ever learned to play well was ultimate frisbee. I did play on the junior high girls’ basketball B-team, but – let’s be honest – that was really more slapstick than sport. So it was something of a surprise to find out in college that I could both throw and catch a frisbee, occasionally while running.

Interestingly, when I first heard that I needed to have a personal relationship with Jesus – a concept I also learned in college – ultimate frisbee with Jesus was the image that came to mind. After all, frisbee was something I did with people with whom I had personal relationships, people who could chase down my errant throws and join me afterwards for a cup of coffee and instant replay of our best displays of athleticism. So “personal relationship with Jesus” evoked for me a lively vision of the Messiah hiking up his robes and deftly tossing the frisbee among the campus pine trees. 

Basically, the idea of a personal relationship with Jesus completely confused me.

Many of my college friends seemed to have this “personal relationship,” which, from what I gathered, meant they felt like Jesus was tangibly present to them, speaking to them, walking beside them, making them feel better about bad stuff that happened, cheering them on, etc., the way a real live human friend would. Feeling pressured to have one myself, I asked a lot of people about their personal relationships with Jesus, hoping to get pointers. Because I didn’t have what they seemed to have, I often felt like my faith was inadequate and incomplete, and I couldn't sing any of the prolific praise songs about Jesus’ familiar presence without feeling uncomfortable and disingenuous.

Now, almost two decades later, I still wouldn’t characterize my experience of God or Jesus or the Holy Spirit as a “personal relationship,” at least not in the way most people who use that phrase seem to mean it. As during college, I can’t wrap my brain around how relationship with Jesus is like a relationship with my actual friends whom I see in daily life and who have actual human bodies and voices and personalities. Truthfully, in many ways Jesus is more mysterious to me now than he was when I first heard about the “personal relationship” I was supposed to have with him.

By now, though, I have made my peace with the fact that I don’t get “personal relationship” language about Jesus. It’s just not my thing, and I’m cool with it. I follow Jesus, I call myself a disciple of Jesus, I believe in Jesus. And I occasionally play frisbee (and more often drink coffee) with actual, living and breathing human friends who show me who Jesus is through their love and care.

Earlier this week, I read an article in The Christian Century entitled “A friend in Jesus?” that got me thinking about the  “personal relationship” question again. (The article is here, but you can only read it if you’re a CC subscriber. For a similar article by the same author, John Suk, click here. The article was adapted from his book, Not Sure: A Pastor’s Journey from Faith to Doubt, published by Eerdmans.) The article makes a case that the language of a “personal relationship with Jesus” – largely a construction of American culture’s emphasis on feeling and experience as marks of religious piety – may be a sign of our inability to find deeper meaning amid the distractions of material plenty. Says Suk:

Our society is individualistic and competitive at home, at work and in the public square… Our society is also a materialistic one, full of cars and furniture and boats and clothes and toys… we are waifs when it comes to meaning… we look for it in endless miles of shopping mall corridors or computer game avatars. Since we have eternity set in our hearts, we want an epiphany: we want to experience God. And I suspect that that longing is enough for a lot of people to mistake just about any intuition or good thought or warm fuzziness as being Jesus. The bottom line is that the huge emphasis that contemporary evangelicals put on a great personal experience of and with Jesus has little or nothing to do with scripture and everything to do with taking from our culture what it thinks happiness is all about.

Suk isn’t against religious experience, but, he says, “I want to make sure that it is connected to our tradition’s deepest wells rather than to individual and subjective interpretations of feelings that are characteristic not of faith, but of our culture’s inability to delve deep or long.”

As I read through the article, I was of two minds; the first was to feel slightly protective of my friends who do use “personal relationship” language and are deeply intelligent, thinking Christians. But my second mind felt vindicated. At last, here was someone who, all these years later, was articulating reasons for my discomfort with a personal relationship with Jesus.

Suk made a lot of points that resonated with me, but high among them was this: faith is the language of belief without seeing, belief without experiencing, belief despite the evidence. I’m a minister for Christ’s sake, and I can count on one hand the number of times in my whole life I’ve felt God right in front of me, fully present and personal – and those times are moments of incredibly unexpected and inexplicable mystery, profound awe, and often fear at the hugeness of What There Is beyond the little world I inhabit. By contrast, my tangible, day-to-day experiences of ordinary transcendence are generally in encounters with other people, flashes of insight and wisdom and grounding humility, and a hungry sense that things much bigger than me might just be active for the good.

One of the reasons John Suk penned this article is the same reason I’m writing this blog entry: language of personal relationship with Jesus can be confusing, and it can cause doubt and frustration when people don’t experience Jesus the way others seem to – especially when they feel pressured to. There’s nothing wrong with feeling like Jesus is with you every moment offering comfort and concern and correction and direction. But there’s also nothing wrong with not feeling like Jesus is with you every moment. It’s okay – and even biblical – to feel like God might more often be distant than next door. It’s okay – and biblical – to feel like your relationship with God is probably the weirdest and most unpredictable one you’ve got, and with feeling like you go long stretches between really experiencing things that are extraordinarily divine. And it’s okay – and biblical – to not really see or understand God’s action in the world, but believe in it anyway. That’s what faith is for.

After all, “The wind blows where it chooses, and you hear the sound of it, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit” (John 3:8).  

Strangers on the flight

Every flight I take seems to be an adventure of sorts. As I boarded a Southwest plane to L.A. last week I saw a nun in full religious habit sitting on the aisle of an otherwise unoccupied row. Thinking this might be a good moment for ecumenical dialogue, I took the window seat. Just as I was about to strike up a conversation, another woman claimed the middle seat. I leaned back in my chair, deciding to await a future moment to chat with the sister.

I should note here that it is not unusual for me to encounter and interact with nuns. Intentionally sitting in this row was not some kind of ecumenical voyeurism on my part; in fact I was traveling to an ecumenical meeting attended by several women in religious orders whom I consider my friends. It is unusual these days to run into women wearing the religious habit, however, and I found that intriguing. I wanted to ask her about her order and perhaps why they had maintained their traditional dress.

But now there was someone sitting between us. The plane was warm, and the woman in the middle was wearing several layers. As she began shedding coats and scarves, I happened to notice the title of the book on her lap: “The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women.” I also noticed that as soon as her hands were free she turned the book title-side down.

The juxtaposition of my seatmates made me smile, for obvious reasons. The woman in the middle seat had no way of knowing that I, too, was a religious professional, and I wondered how she’d feel about that. I also wondered if turning her book upside down was a reaction to the habit-clad nun, or not. It might have been. Or it might have been that she wasn’t comfortable having the book face up on her lap no matter who her seatmates were. Or it might have been inadvertent – just another movement in the Twister game of getting settled in a middle seat on a crowded airplane.

All of this got me thinking: what are the things we feel like we should hide from the pious side of ourselves, or from religious leaders or those we consider to be “holy”? What parts of our lives do we leave behind when we walk into church? Are there things that should be left outside the sanctuary? Are there topics too taboo to be discussed as aspects of our faith?

I don’t know if the nun on the aisle ever noticed the book’s title, but I saw her and the woman in the middle seat exchange pleasantries without apparent discomfort. And when the woman in the middle got up to use the restroom, I took the opportunity to chat with the nun, sharing “shop talk” about Catholic communities in the Bay Area. She turned out to be a kind and friendly woman doing interesting ministry just up the Bay from me.

When the woman in the middle seat returned from the restroom, I leaned back in my chair again - and noticed with another wry grin that the title of the chapter to which she now turned was, "The Spiritual Experience of Orgasm."

Startling comfort

Throughout its history, in times of turmoil and change and especially challenge, the church has come together to write and speak what it believes, and we call them confessions. These aren’t confessions in the sense of admitting to a crime, but confessions of faith in which we remember and say why and how we are followers of Jesus in a new time and under different circumstances than we have been before.

For most Christians the familiar confessions are the Apostles' or Nicene Creed, which a lot of us were forced (or bribed with stickers and candy) to memorize in Sunday school. But there are others: during World War II, German churches wrote a confession called the Theological Declaration of Barmen, rejecting the idea that the Church was subject to the state and proclaiming that Jesus Christ alone as Lord, above any nation or leader. Churches wrestling with apartheid in South Africa wrote the Belhar Confession in 1986 rejecting the segregation of people on theological grounds, and claiming that unity in Christ is both a gift and obligation of the church.

At worship on September 11, 2011, the congregation at the church I attend read together the Presbyterian Church U.S.A.’s Brief Statement of Faith. The Brief Statement was written at a moment of healing, when two parts of our denomination that had been long divided were reunited – not perfectly, but hopefully. It begins, “In life and in death, we belong to God,” which is perhaps the most complete statement of faith I know, and certainly a fitting way to center ourselves on that particular day. 

I was thinking about confessions this week in part because we used the Brief Statement last week, and also because a dear friend of mine is joining a church near her home, and as part of the membership process she was asked to write her statement of faith, which she posted on her blog. She wrote beautifully of the permeability of faith – how it changes through different stages of life, but is tied together with wonder and mystery.

It is a startling comfort in times of turmoil and tribulation to reconnect with our confessions, both the individual and the corporate ones. Never a litmus test of belief, confessions are a gift from and for the community of faith – a reminder of the pioneers who have walked the journey before us, and the great cloud of witnesses to which we belong even when we can’t see our own hands in front of our faces.

Moreover, they give us a lee in the storm. God is bigger than whatever we are facing. The pioneers and witnesses stand before and behind us. In life and in death we belong to God, even when the economy tanks and you can’t find a job and the approval rate of Congress is at an all time low and you burned the toast at breakfast.

Today I dug out the statement of faith I wrote in seminary, something that was given as an assignment but came rushing out of me in a spirit of defiance and truth and nearly fell on the page in one finished lump. And when I re-read it, it came as a startling comfort to know that, even still:

 In the midst of a world at war,

amidst a creation straining toward light,

amidst a people divided against themselves, 

amidst broken homes, broken families, broken bodies, broken hearts:

I believe

I believe

I believe in God.

I believe in the one God who made swaths of brilliant stars in the empty darkness of space,

crafted the orange-tipped wings of a million butterflies

painted the emerald moss clinging to frozen tundra.

I believe in the one God who created from the ruddy earth beings in the image of God,

Creative, blessed, eager, amazing children of the most high

imprinted with the likeness of the giver of life

and born into a covenant of love,

but who in the darkness of sin have forgotten and forsaken

their true selves and their Creator

and are thirsty

and wandering lost,

yearning for renewed and new life

amidst disillusionment, despair, and death.

In infinite imagination and unquenchable love,

our God self enfleshed,

and was born penniless and pitiable ––

one simple, finite life on the ruddy earth

that we might return to the God of perpetually new and everlasting life.

 

Jesus the Christ recalibrated the rules,

calling the powers to servanthood,

the divided to kinship,

and the nations to justice.

Jesus the Christ restored the rejected

touching the ones called unclean,

healing the ones called unfit, 

loving the ones called unwelcome.

Jesus the Christ enacted the impossible

fully God, fully human,

the Creator of the universe under the tyranny of Rome,

forgiving even his executioners,

laid cold as stone in a tomb

and at the turn of the tide was preposterously raised from the dead to glorious fullness of life.

 

I believe

I believe

I believe in God.

 

I believe in the God who through power over even the sting of death

shows us that love does conquer all

and that even the worst we can do is not enough

to separate us from the love of God.

I believe in the God who through the life, death and resurrection of Jesus the Christ

has sliced clean through the sticky web of sin

that within a world that still groans in bondage

we might live again and forever as children of God.

I believe in the God who through the sweet communion of the Holy Spirit

gives us freedom from fear

that we might fiercely and unswervingly love one another

even at the cost of our own lives

and with joy proclaim to the world

that what was broken can be healed

what was lost, found

what was dead, made new.

Through the wholly inspired and holy authoritative Word of God in Scripture,

the testimony of the great cloud of witnesses to the work of the great God,

we hear, discover, recognize, discern and remember

the presence and prompting of God among us.

In the washing of the water and the sharing of the bread and cup

we see, taste, touch, feel, smell and know that God is good

and that God’s grace abounds

as we are reborn, renewed and reclothed in sacrament.

I believe in the God who calls women and men, boys and girls, young and wise, kind and strong to bring their foibles and folly and be the church

to live as God’s family and welcome others to the table,

a table set with china and chopsticks, cheese and chocolate,

and enough chairs for everyone.

 

In thanksgiving and hope,

I believe

I believe

I believe in God.

Junk mail

I really don’t like junk mail. I’ve done all I can to get off every mailing list that delivers unwanted mail to my mailbox. Just two weeks ago I contacted my bank to ask them to stop sending me new credit card announcements (I had gotten three for the same card in less than a month, even though I’m on the “do not mail” lists). 

The magazine The Christian Century seems to be one of the worst offenders when it comes to unsolicited solicitations. Several times a year I get mailings at my home from the “professional clergy department” urging me to subscribe, despite the fact that I receive the magazine at my office. Seriously, can they not clean out their rolls? I mean how many Rev. Aimee Moisos can there be in Santa Clara, California?

I got one of the Century’s subscription mailings again this week. But this time it didn’t come from my mailbox. It came from my neighbor, who’d gotten it in his box by mistake.

This is a neighbor I’ve met before. I know his name. His parking spot is next to mine, and we’ve exchanged pleasantries. I ran into him once at the gas station. He knows I work at the university.

What he didn’t know was that I was a pastor – until he got mail addressed to Rev. Aimee Moiso from The Christian Century professional clergy department.

So my neighbor knocked on my door and, with a slightly odd look on his face, handed me my junk mail saying, “I didn’t know you were a Reverend.”

Uh, oh. I thought. Where is this going?

“Yes, I am,” I responded warmly, but warily.

What followed was a lovely doorway conversation about being Christian. Turns out he and his wife, who are from the Philippines but have lived in California for a long time, are part of a local Assemblies of God church. His wife’s parents were both pastors. The man actually worked for several years at the Filipino church just down the block.

He was curious but not suspicious about me working at a Catholic university and being Protestant, and being a woman in ministry. He was interested in the work I do to bring Christians together to understand each other better. Both of his kids are in college, and he affirmed how important it is for young adults to have mentors to help deal with the big questions of life.

During our visit, his wife emerged from their apartment carrying a plate of noodles for me, hot from the frying pan. “They’re vegetarian,” she said. “Are you vegetarian? We knew you must be healthy because you ride your bike all the time.”

“She is a pastor,” the man said to his wife. Then he turned to me and said, “You never know about people. We see you, we say hello, but we didn’t know you were a pastor. It’s nice to know our neighbor is a Christian.”

I was in London this summer just before and just after the riots. While I was there I thought about what I would do if there was rioting in my neighborhood. Would I hunker down in my apartment and close the curtains? Would I try to organize people to resist, or respond? Would I take advantage of looting and justify “helping myself” to something suddenly available from a decimated shop?

More importantly, I wondered, would I know my neighbors enough to trust them in the midst of a riot? Would I trust them enough to open my door if they knocked when all hell was breaking loose?

The question gave me pause. In this small apartment complex where I’ve made my home for the past two years, I don’t know very many people at all. Most people keep to themselves. One time I ran into a woman in the complex who I knew from work, and discovered we had been living in the same building for several months without knowing it.

Whether or not my neighbors are Christian doesn’t affect my sense of responsibility to know and care about them, or my ability to trust them. As it happens, the woman I ran into from work was Muslim, and I knew her from collaboration on interfaith projects.

But somehow making a Christian connection with my Assemblies of God neighbors brought a special smile to my face. We swapped stories of the church and joked about favorite Bible verses. We shared a common language, even though we had different ways of understanding our faith. “Our churches are different,” I said to the couple at one point, “but we all like Jesus.”

As I closed my door holding a plate of hot noodles, I couldn’t stop smiling. The whole thing was just one of those unexpected gifts.

So thank you, Christian Century, for your irritating solicitations. And thank you, Mr. Letter Carrier, for putting my mail in the wrong box.

Because now I know two more neighbors, and they turned out to be family. 

Highgate

I’ve been traveling and on vacation, which is why I’ve been absent from the blogosphere for a while. I think, dear readers, you can expect the next several entries to be reflections on my comings and goings, so bear with me.

A few weeks ago while in London, I took a tour of Highgate Cemetery, a Victorian cemetery that opened in 1839. Since then, more than 168,000 people have been buried there. The eastern side of the cemetery houses Karl Marx, among others, but our guided tour was through the older, western half – a shadowy and mysterious tangle of invading ivy, shady trees, and old tombstones. 

I suppose there’s nothing to get you thinking about the passing of time like a tour of an overgrown cemetery. The graves themselves are interesting, pushed up by or buried underneath shrubs, vines and wildflowers. A few notable names pop out here and there, but most people are forgotten. For each, though, at some point someone cared enough to buy a plot and ensure their loved one had a final resting place at Highgate; today the majority have passed from living memory. 

One of the largest mausoleums in Highgate was built by a man named Julius Beer, who, so the story goes, placed it at the highest point in the cemetery in part to snub the Victorian society that had snubbed him. Our tour guide told us Beer had made a fortune on the London Stock Exchange, and the mausoleum he built would have cost between $3 and $4 million in today’s dollars.

What struck me about Julius Beer’s mausoleum wasn’t how much he had made in his life, or how much he had spent on his burial plot. It was that the mausoleum housed the remains of his daughter, who died at age 8. Inside is a large white statue depicting her sleeping form being held by an angel. I don’t remember exactly what the tour guide said about how the girl died, but Beer was brokenhearted, presumably for the rest of his life. 

I visited Highgate at the height of the debate over the debt ceiling. As our leaders argued over money and spending and the economy as if that were all that mattered, I looked at Julius Beer’s name outside his mausoleum. A fortune spent on a mausoleum to put Victorian society to shame didn’t heal Julius Beer’s grief. Having all the money in the world won’t save us from loss, or pain, or grief any more than it will buy us friends or happiness.

Our economic troubles, our antagonistic society and our divided nation are serious problems, but in the end every human being faces but one true reality: we were born from dust, and to dust we will return. What happens in between should be more about sharing together the big questions of grief and pain and joy and hope than about bottom lines and scoring points and who can make whom look worse.

And perhaps it’s worth taking a walk through a forgotten cemetery every now and then to remember.  

Theology of a yard sale

Early last Saturday morning, my siblings and I dragged card tables and boxes of household paraphernalia out to my dad’s lawn to set up shop for a summer yard sale. As any of you who have done a yard sale know, our work started days (and, for my dad, weeks) before – deciding what to take back to the attic or price for the sale, post on Ebay, take to an antique store or toss in the garbage. 

Choosing what to keep was tricky: what do we do with the worn placemat set our mom sewed all those years ago? The statue from our grandparents’ house that none of us really like but which reminds us so much of their personalities? The lopsided ceramic pinch pots or lumpy vases with “I love you, Dad” or “Happy Mother’s Day” scratched on the side in kid penmanship? We took a no-guilt approach. If it was too hard to decide what to do, the item went back to the attic for another day. We photographed some of our childhood art to keep its memory alive. And we decided nothing too extra-special would leave our house with a “25 cents” sticker on it.

After decisions were made, though, pricing posed another challenge: what is the value of an objectively ugly candleholder that has no real worth but immediately takes you back to being a child on Christmas Eve? What about the suitcase that still smells like your grandmother’s perfume? The chipped salad bowl that went with the family to a hundred potluck dinners? The LP album recording of the first violin music you ever learned?

It is an odd sensation to feel overwhelmingly blessed by abundance and simultaneously territorial and protective of it. More than once I felt guilty about having so much excess and likewise judgmental about what other people might do with it, how they might abuse what we had loved or at least not appreciate its meaning and significance. It is strange to mix together nostalgia and greed, generosity and loss, gratitude and defense. We know we are blessed, and yet we sure do cling to our stuff.

I like to shop at yard sales and thrift stores myself, so I’m quite familiar with the other side of this equation, too – looking for a good deal on something I might recreate into something new, or something that might recreate me or my home. In the end, that was the best part of our sale: finding out how others were going to create something new from our cast-offs. There was the man who bought all those beautiful polished rocks my dad had collected and all those seashells that had been hidden away in a box in my closet - he’s going to give them away on Halloween instead of candy. A woman bought all those old ratty placemats to remake into aprons. One guy was so excited to find among our records an LP of Weird Al’s Dare to be Stupid. Another woman anticipated scoring big points with both her husband and son when she brought home my brother’s old Star Wars light saber.

Someone bought the violin songs record. Someone bought the tie that said “I love Jesus” all over it, and someone else bought the oversized glow-in-the-dark rosary (both had been gag gifts to my dad, and both were snatched up by very excited customers). The woman who bought my grandpa’s desk is going to use it for her sewing machine. Another who bought our broken camp stove is giving it to her husband who “loves to fix things.” Our LIFE board game went right through a minivan window and into the waiting lap of a kid who had been wanting one for years. Someone else happily snatched up my two sock monkeys on her way to a two-year-old’s birthday party. Everything that was left in the end went down the street to another garage in preparation for a different rummage sale the next week.

For all the loss and sadness of letting go of our stuff and the memories it held, the whole thing turned out to be a lot about new life: new air breathed into old things, new uses found for what seemed to be useless, new light shed on what had been dusty in the darkness. The creative spirit of the customers inspired us and gave us ideas. Because other people saw our stuff with new eyes, we did, too – which made it freeing to let it go to be new again. And the goal of the whole adventure was to help my dad clean out our family home to make space for his new wife’s stuff and their new life together. And we did.

The famous “for everything, there is a season” passage in Ecclesiastes 3 includes the idea that there is “a time to keep, and a time to throw away.” We did both last weekend. The wisdom of Ecclesiastes 3 is that it reminds us that times will come and go, and they will change. What was new will become old and often new again.

In the past I’ve understood the passage to mean seasons are distinct, as if the writer were saying, “There is a time for everything, and seasons pass one to another – from a time to keep to a time to give away.” Our yard sale gave me a different perspective. Seasons are not pure and separate, they are mixed up – like our nostalgia and gratitude, our generosity and greed. Perhaps it is not that there is a season where we keep and a season where we throw away, but that in every season we are to discern what to keep and what to throw away, what to plant and what to uproot, what is dying and what is being born – and in it all to keep a hopeful watch for new life springing forth. 

The end of the story

Tonight, for the first time in my life, I called 911. I was on the freeway and found myself behind a white Mercedes that was drifting in and out of its lane. I followed it for a while to make sure the drift wasn’t a random occurrence, and when I’d seen enough repeats to believe the swerving to be chronic, I dialed (with a safe, hands-free device, of course). 

After I hung up and safely passed the car (which had slowed to below 50mph), I spent the rest of my drive wondering what happened next. Did the driver get off at the next exit? Did the highway patrol track down the car? Was the driver drunk, or on the phone, or falling asleep? Was this the first incidence of such driving for this person, or was it a pattern? Did the car hit anyone or anything? 

The more I thought about it, the more I thought of other stories from my life whose endings I wish I knew - like the stories of several people I got to know during my CPE hospital chaplaincy, including the mom who delivered stillborn twin boys whose tiny foreheads I baptized with drops of water in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Or the person who was intended to receive the message that was accidentally left on my voicemail some months ago giving detailed instructions about bringing home someone on parole. Or the many people to whom I’ve given directions on the street – sometimes more clearly (or accurately) than others. Or all the fellow passengers I’ve talked to on airplanes crisscrossing the country. How did things end up for all of them? Did they get what they needed? Did they recover? Did they find what they were looking for? Did they get home safely?

I sometimes say that I think heaven is a place where we get to see everyone as they were meant to be – no frills or flashiness or plastic surgery, but no woundedness or broken-down-ness or despair, either. We get to understand what made people do bad things and what made them do good things, but more importantly we get to see into their hearts and know what they should have been or could have been, and love them and be loved for the person each of us was created to be.

I think maybe heaven is also a place where we get to hear the end of stories. We get to find out what happened to that special person we lost track of years ago, or to the guy whose car we dinged but didn’t leave a note, or the neighbor who borrowed our lawnmower and then moved away without giving it back. Perhaps we also get to find out what could have happened, if only…

And maybe in heaven, all those things – however they turned out, or could have turned out – will be okay, because the Real end, the True end of all things will be clear, too. All of what was and could have been and should have been will be wrapped up inside the embrace of What Is.

And – my hope is – that will be all we need to know.

 

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